Living by It. One lesson a day…

… from Quran. Changing slowly, but surely.

Lesson 11 – Gossip Girls *sigh* February 17, 2010

Filed under: Uncategorized — Sym @ 10:07 pm

Rabi Al-Awwal 3, 1431

“And people who are faithful guardians (they fully honor) whatever is entrusted to them and of their agreements (and pledges made by them).”

Surah Al-Maarij (Surah 70), verse 32


“Tell me, I swear I won’t tell anybody… who am I going to tell? Come on!”

“I’m telling you this, but promise me you won’t tell a soul… NOT a soul!”

“I don’t think I should be telling you this but I’ll still tell you if you can keep it to yourself…”

“Guess what I found out about her???”

“Yeah yeah so what? He cheated on his wife… Oh I don’t think I was supposed to tell you this!”

Just keep in mind that when you are ready to keep secrets, Allah will keep your bigger secrets safe… that’s pretty much how it works. When you keep safe somebody else’s possessions (without expecting a reward from that person hopefully!), Allah will save bigger things for you. What works best is when you imagine every situation as if you’re a spectator to your own life. Once you’ve imagined all the ways you can be hurt, betrayed, misguided you’ll find it easier to change the way you do certain things, the way you talk about people. Admittedly, it’s not easy anymore because gossiping has become so integral to our lives – it’s a source of entertainment, laughter, learning, pity, envy, glee – our ranks raise higher in our social circles when we share something “juicy”, “raunchy” whatever… the good news, however, is that we KNOW it’s mostly wrong… that will lend us a way to free ourselves from the farce, don’t you think?

From where I stand, the root, really, is how the definition of gossip and entrusted talk has become loose because we’ve become so “eager” to share things as a means to LEARN (as if!) and that needs to be talked about so people have a clear picture about whether they WANT to rid themselves of talks they consider harmless (but are not) or continue to be stubbornly oblivious to its open and hidden nuisances.

I haven’t even started on the issue of property mishandling – it’s too vast a topic and I’ve seen much too little of it on a personal level to write about it with any expertise.


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