“A kind word equitably spoken, and forgiving (the slights), is better than charity which is followed by causing hurt (to the receiver). And Allah is Free from want, is Forbearing.”
Surah Al-Baqarah (Surah 2), verse 263
While this is self-explanatory, we need to still reflect more and realize that it is SUCH an easily applicable and overrated deed we think of it as something obvious… and we lose lessons in life by undermining their importance in whichever way we deem it to be. I, for one, miss out on things because I regard them as SO obvious.
So, four literal things are here:
- Saying kind things – don’t lie, don’t be clever and circumlocute, SAY kind things. Find things to say that’ll make somebody feel good/ worthwhile, but make sure it’s specific to their lives. Nothing’s nicer than noticing somebody’s slight effort and complimenting them on it. So often we hold back on good things to say because society tells us how uncool that is. Forget society, it’s too contradictory anyway, which means more mental strength cope with… I’d rather not deal with its quirks, and just SAY nice things. The feel-good-energy blogs all recommend the same, so this one’s easy to apply and earn points with Him.
- Forgiving – things like somebody’s mean comments. So this is doubly rewarding ;). Seriously though, I think when you’ve resolved on your own how you’re NOT going to let things bug you, that no one’s going to matter except Him, that He is your friend (I’ll put this lesson up soon), I think it gets easier to forgive people and circumstances and luck. Forgive people’s clevernesses (let them feel good about themselves, who cares?), forgive your mom for not giving you more money, forgive dad for spoiling your weekends with his ideas of “fun” trips to barren lands, forgive brothers for making fun of you, forgive your sister for spoiling your shoes… Nothing’s going to last, you’re going to Him and most of all, do you even realize how much of your mind you can use to do things that are otherwise cluttered by the grudges you keep?
- Charity – is a great thing! I haven’t quite experienced the feeling of giving away charity (or maybe my definition differs from most people’s) but Allah is saying here that it’s useless to give charity (such a beautiful thing I’ve heard) if you’re going to tell the receiver in a way that it hurts him… So either give it with a clean heart OR don’t… AT ALL! Both will give plus points!
- Allah is Free from want – DON’T DO THINGS BECAUSE ALLAH WANTS IT. Do it because it’s good for you. Allah is Too Great to want something from you. He just Loves you and Wants good FOR YOU. Get it? Read this again. Thank you.
I lack enough knowledge to derive more knowledge out of this, so any other viewpoints are welcome!